23 January 2011

Being impecunious-Part I: Living in Central London for <£850/month

Ever since I have moved out of residential housing, I've averaged about £830 in monthly expenditures. It amazes me that I can live in Central London for this little, and I don't necessarily recommend living the way I do, b/c I rarely go out. . . but that said, it's doable.

What's even crazier is that 3 of my busiest months as a student, I was able to live for under £500 a month--from April till June. Part of this is because of the weird way the residence hall charged our rent--so for the spring term (April, May, June), rent was £300/month. Those were the three months that I (well, our entire class) spent about 15 hours in the library, 7 days a week. It turns out that if you do nothing but spend time at the library, save the occasional food break, you can live on very little.

Sadly, life hasn't changed much since then. I still spend the bulk of my time at the library. . .. Perhaps this is why I can live on so little.

Another reason I can do this is my cheap rent. Rent is slightly over half of my monthly expenses--it is a steal for this area at the all-inclusive price of £450. In this area, rent normally costs £600-£800. The price I have to pay is zero freedom, which, to be honest, isn't worth the rent savings, but given that I'm not gainfully employed, I'm not in much of a position to be choosy. Well, it is letting me stretch out my last bit of savings, for which I am thankful.

Now, there are many things I don't buy or do in order to live for this little, but I certainly don't feel like I'm destitute (yet) or that I'm depriving myself too much. For example, today, I bought snob olive oil. What is snob olive oil, you ask? Uber-expensive olive oil that tastes so good, it is worth every penny. This bottle will keep me happy for at least a few months, so stuff like this is well-worth splurging for. So are the occasional £1.50-per unit Pierre Hermes macarons. I realize, there are many entire boxes of cookies that can be bought for £1.50 that are actually quite good. Ginger snaps, speculoos, chocolate-covered digestives, to name a few, but every once in a blue moon, it's really worth spending £1.50 to buy the Pierre Hermes macaron. All of you should do this before you die. Mind you, I've only done it once since I've arrived here. But they are seriously orgasmically good. However, to be able to buy that £1.50 macaron every once in a while, and still spend less than £850/month, I have a few self-imposed rules or budget restrictions.

1. Buying the FT at the school co-op-Some people have a discretionary coffee fund. I have a discretionary FT-at-school fund. At school, the FT costs a mere 25p. I don't buy it every day, but I buy it on average, 2-3 times per week. I mean, how can you not at this price point? At an 87.5 percent discount? Also, in my case, I need to be reading it regularly, for job interviews. So I spend an average of say, 65p/week on FT purchases.

2. Not paying service fees. There are several things that even as a working adult, I absolutely, positively hate paying. One of them is exorbitant (relative to the price of the ticket) service fees. The other is parking, when there is free street parking. If I am paying $40 for a ticket, I will grudgingly pay $2 or $2.50 as a service fee. That is reasonable. But anything above 10 percent is ridiculous. I flat-out refuse to pay it. So I never buy movie tickets online. There is no way it should cost $1.50 worth of services to issue a movie ticket. I know $1.50 is peanuts, but it raises the price of a ticket from "very high but worth it for some movies" (say, 9.50) to "No. Freaking. Way." ($11) Maybe some day, I will earn so much I won't care, but right now, I care. A lot. So for example, I went ice-skating. It was £10.50 for the ticket, and then another £1.30 to buy it online. It failed the under-10-percent rule, so I risked having the session sold out rather than pay the service fee. Again, I know that £1.30 is not much. But to someone who is unemployed, £10.50 (roughly $16!) is already a big chunk of my monthly "entertainment" fund.

3. Avoiding pubs. I actually don't care for beer, so I don't spend much at pubs. When I do go, I usually get sparkling water. Beer and most alcohol are ridiculously expensive here. At some places, it is £5. Again, since my savings are in dollars, I'm still thinking in dollars after a year and a half of being here--but that's $7.50--for a beer that I'm very lukewarm about. So, I very rarely drink in pubs. This probably saves me a lot of money.

3a. Not buying beverages in general. My only exception to this is sparkling water. Over the past year, I've really taken a liking to this stuff. It probably started out as wanting something less pedestrian than plain old water at a pub. Anyway, this is the one drink that I will actually order--again, never at a restaurant, b/c the markup price is ridiculous--but the student center only charges 70p for a one-litre bottle, so I occasionally get that, or at a pub as per above. However, in general, I find that at restaurants and pubs, the price of drinks, relative to food is really high. I don't like beer or even wine enough to pay an extra 5 quid. Marginal utility never equals marginal cost. I'd much rather spend that 5 pounds on food or several PH macarons. If I forego that glass of wine twice, that is the cost of a meal. I also rarely buy teas or coffees. I rarely did this when I lived in the U.S., but now, given the relatively higher price of beverages, I buy them even less-frequently. There are actually times that I've wanted a Starbucks drink--and walk in there with the intention of buying a latte or whatever--and then walk out after deciding that rather than spend the equivalent of $4 on a chai latte, I'll forego this feeling twice, and buy myself dinner instead. So I guess I'm not a beverage-buying kind of person. Water from a tap is completely free.

4. Don't use the tube--ever. Ok, I use it for interviews, if the interview is far enough, or to get to Heathrow, since that is like in zone 6, but since I live in zone 1, one way to immediately cut costs is to never use the tube. I have used it a few times to go see friends, but most of my friends live near LSE or we always meet close to LSE, and the few out-of-town people I meet up with, I usually ask them to meet me half way somewhere that is walk- or bus-able. I used to live in zone 3 and 4, where I had no choice but to use the tube to get to school. A weekly tube/transport pass costs about £27, so in a given month, you are spending a little over £100 on transport costs. I now walk or take the bus everywhere, when I can.

5. Better yet, walk everywhere. Now that it has gotten considerably warmer, I have been making a conscious effort to walk more. London is a wonderful walking city, and is relatively safe to walk around at night, so this definitely helps. Also, since I'm paying the zone 1 premium, the price for this should be to walk more. I also enjoy walking a lot, so I don't find this particularly hard to do.

6. Don't call people; text them instead. And don't pay for a monthly plan. I use my phone for 4 things. 1. Text people, 2. Make only domestic calls that are job-related. 3. Call internationally. 4. Receive calls. Compared to the US, my monthly cellphone expenditures are much much lower here. One reason is that I don't have a monthly plan. In the US, I paid $40/month for a plan I barely used. I had something like 400 minutes and free weekends--and I rarely used my cellphone. Reception was crappy. I don't like committing to 2yr plans, so I never upgraded my phone, so technology was shit. Here, I pay an average of £7/month for 2 phones/plans. Why do I have 2 phones? I got one as a bequest, and I've now optimized my calling system. Plan A charges me a flat rate of 10p to send a text or talk for 1 minute. So I use this one to make outgoing calls. Plan B gives me 600 free texts if I top up every 3 months--but calls cost 26p/min for domestic, but only 3p/min to call the U.S. It doesn't make any economic sense to pay 26p for calls, when I only have to pay 3p to call abroad, so the result of this is that I make a lot of international calls, and text everyone who lives locally.

Actually, people in general don't seem to talk on the phone much the way we do in the US. We "miss call" each other a lot, for example, if we are meeting up, but other than the people who have plans that give them unlimited minutes, others are usually very mindful of other people's top-up minutes/limits. If I need to talk at length to someone, we either use alternative media, or the person with the unlimited plan usually calls everyone else back. I never texted back in the US, but here, they are a lifesaver.

7. Hang out with students or like-minded people. I really like hanging out with other poor students who are also living on a tight budget, b/c they are on the same page about things like this. They never scoff at you if you take a dinner break at the library, and you bring your own lunch and dinner from home. And today, when I texted one of my friends to see if they want to take a food break, he texted back and told me that actually, he was going to eat from home to save money. I religiously try to bring packed lunches (and dinners) as much as I can--probably more so than most of my other classmates. But whenever we went somewhere to take a food break, people always accommodated those of us who brought food from home. Either we ate at places where they allowed outside food in, or they would buy the food and bring it back. It's definitely possible to eat cheaply at school, but even then, the people who bought every meal spent an average of £11/day. I don't know how much I spent per day, but I know I spent considerably less.

Also, since we are all living with tight finances, when we do go out, people are good about picking reasonably priced restaurants. And if you tell people, "Nah, I'll pass today, b/c I've already eaten out this week", people understand. They don't give you a hard time about it.

7a. And not just any students, but mostly school-of-despotic-regime-studies students. I have nothing against hanging out with other students, but let me point out the differences between SDRS students and students from Rich-MBA-School. First, the topic of buying a plane for 6.7 million dollars--and mentioned in the first person, as in I bought said plane for blah-million-dollars--never ever comes up among SDRS students. We talk about how we worked 3 jobs to save up for our program. I can talk for hours with these people.

Second, I had the chance to go ice-skating with RMBAS students, and they have quite a different budget, in terms of an evening of entertainment. Now, with SDRS students, we were all on a budget, so we typically did one activity per evening whenever we got together. Except graduation and end-of-term, when we felt justified in splurging a bit. But even then--even then, someone printed out a 30% off voucher. Not that I am a student anymore, but I am also still not working and living on the last scraps of savings, so if I go ice-skating, I can't also go to dinner. SDRS students understand that, without my having to explain this. But when I went with RMBAS students and tried to make an excuse for not joining them for dinner, the slightly-pressure-wielding guy was like, "come on--you can study tomorrow." I know that he was just trying to be friendly, but with SDRS students, there is never this sort of annoying pressure that irks me b/c they understand. This guy is getting paid a salary to attend RMBAS, so he doesn't understand such things and ends up being slightly inconsiderate. I suppose I could've said something about my financial situation, but I don't really want to have to spell this out to people every time, you know? Especially, since we spent the past half-hour talking about my wanting to find a job and earn income. This is where I feel like Asian so-called "passive aggressiveness" (I call it being tuned in to people's needs without having everything SPELLED OUT, but many "let's be explicit and spell out every feeling we have" white people probably think anything that is not direct is just passive aggressive. . . in their culturally intolerant way. But you know what? Passive aggressiveness is sometimes really useful for reading between the lines, so we don't have to spell everything out for you.) Anyway, I did want to hang out with them a bit more, so I did end up going to a pub with them and joining them for a little bit. But again, RMBAS students: ice-skating+pre-prandial drinks at pub+dinner. SDRS students: ice skating OR dinner.

8. One fun per week. This one is not a strict rule, but like I said above, I generally allow myself one source of paid fun per week. Most of the times, that is dinner with friends. And to be honest, most of the people who have enough time to meet regularly are also students or not earning much, so we are all on similar money-saving mode, so it actually ends up being even less frequent. There are some months, like graduation month, I've spent over £100, but these days, I've been keeping extraneous expenses (eating out, getting that occasional tea, ice-skating) to £40-£50/month. It turns out there are lots of fun things one can do in London for free.

There are the other standard things, like packing lunches and snacks to bring with you. I also don't currently have as much access to a kitchen as I'd like (one of the prices I pay for this cheap rent), so it also means I'm living on stuff like hummus and pita and cereal and yogurt and the occasional vegetable thrown in. Actually, I have salad and fruit daily. But I also never buy processed food. I'd like to, sometimes, but not for £5-£6. For that price, I can make my own moussaka or whatever.

So, I'm not in dire straits, and I'm getting by and still getting to eat my fancy chocolate bars (none of that Hersheys or Cadbury shit), but an income soon would be nice. Not just nice, but I really. Need. To. Earn. Money. Soon.

16 January 2011

Surreal chats with friends--Bay Area angst, gay vs. straight guys and promising to watch Fox News. . .oh and Tom Browkaw worked for NBC, not Fox News.

me: D! When are you coming to Europe?
D: Hi! I have no idea!! I hope soon!
How are you?
me: I need a job, but otherwise, good.
Are you flipping houses?
D: haha.. are you going to stay in london?
Well, not right now...
me: I was gonna ask about exciting love prospects, but doesn't seem like you'd have time for such things!
How is your mom?
D: oh she's really stressed out.. so it's hard on her.. I'll probably go back soon for another few weeks. but it's (redneck state)! I hate being there!
so it's always nice to come back to SF for a bit to refresh and start over
me: But. . . you grew up there. It can't be that bad. It can't possibly be as right as say, Kansas. At least you have good local food!
D: Yes, it's that bad.. Actually all the good food is gone. It's all just olive garden and chilis now.. But Kansas would be worse
me: Serious?
D: So how are you doing? How is London really? It sounds like you like it there.. I'm pretty serious actually
me: Hah! I like london, but I need a job. I have been getting by, so it's not a problem, but it would be nice to live here and not have to keep converting everything into dollars and thinking, $8 for a drink?? No way! Or $16 for a bowl of udon when I can get it in Japan for 600 yen??
D: yes, the pound is still pretty strong! That has to be a pain. It would be nice to get a paycheck in pounds.. It'd be great coming back here then!
me: But I like the international flavor, the fact that it is close to Europe, the fact that my classmates (who are friends) are from all over the world, and there's none of this bored, Bay Area angst--or at least I haven't seen it yet, though I'm sure it exists.
Actually, a paycheck in yen, given the current exchange rate, would make me filthy rich.
Um, I forget who I'm talking to here, but my definition of filthy rich =salary of over $80K/year.*

(*To provide context, the boy I am chatting w/ is a multi-millionaire, so obviously, we have different scales.)

D: I think that's probably true. It's definitely one of the world class cities... Something that we don't really have in CA. Also, SF isn't so bad, but Stanford was definitely angsty..lol. A paycheck in yen would be great - definitely... Most of my friends in Japan though seem so stressed out..
me: Well, true, perhaps, but I've met some pretty angsty people on dates in SF, too. Actually, you made a comment about that once. You didn't use the word angst, but lots of complacent, bored, linear folk out there. . .But very smart and well off.
D: Oh that's still very true..It's also a maturity issue..
me: Is the gay dating scene any different? I feel like you guys do much more interesting things and take more risks.
D: Men in particular here lack motivation to move into adulthood.. It's very easy to stay in this odd infantile state here..
You know, I don't really know.. I think there's a little more drama involved though..
me: Like there are (were) at least 3 people I had mad crushes on--all of who were gay. So freaking unfair. . ..
D: I think though after 30, a lot of gay guys finally transition into adulthood..
me: Somehow the Bay Area seems to feed this. And I'm guilty of this myself--I'm nearing (some age) and I have not a single vestige of so-called establishment.
D: It makes sense though... A lot of gay people have a reality check earlier on and can seems a lot more settled than straight men...
me: Yeah, they seem much more attractive, except that they don't like vaginas, which is a problem. Um, maybe I shouldn't be typing such things at a library computer. . .
D: It does... and I'm more or less in the same position. But I think too many men are still meandering..
haha
I think it's ok.. Gay men are sort of forced to take care of themselves..
I'm not sure why more straight men don't feel that pressure.. many do, and I think it's changing somewhat..
me: They also have taste and fashion sense, and COOK. Remind me why you guys (well not in CA, but in weirdo places like Kansas) are ostracized again?
D: haha...Well, the main reason we don't have full equality is probably Fox News.. lol
I can't cook though
I hate cooking.. It's stressful!!
me: Ha ha ha.
It's funny but it's not--the Fox News thing. . .You need to learn how to cook!
No but it's also Bill Clinton's fault.
D: It's actually very strange... I mean, I certainly don't mind people being conservative, but it's transitioned into something bizarre.. Especially in (redneck state). People were always redneck, but now aggressively so!
me: Here, it's amazing how non-issue it is. I mean, it should be non issue, but you really notice it when you leave the states.
D: Well, I don't know really, but the tory party in London is conservative, but they aren't totally nuts..
your experience may be different however..
me: But it used to be your home, so isn't there some level of comfort/familiarity in your home town? Or are you like me and every time you go back to NJ, you feel a bit disjoint, and everything that should be familiar feels surreally foreign.
Ah, ok. I don't hang out w/ brits--I mostly hang out w/ other nationalities.
D: oh it's completely surreal.. I have many issues.. It's hard to have conversations with people. I was talking to a cousin about alligators.. I mean, I don't really know how to contribute to that..
me: But if they mostly are just large carbon footprint producers and shoot animals and don't talk, then it's not so bad.
D: and the endless driving.
haha..
Well, I don't care, but I always feel awkward when people are talking their guns and whatnot as though I have any idea what they're talking about. I feel completely alien..
me: The last time I went back to my hometown, one of my childhood friends (well her mom) was complaining about too many Jewish people "buying up" property, and I was like, did we grow up in the same town? Why on earth is this a problem? Can I remind you that our town, to begin with, is 40+PERCENT JEWISH???
Ah, yes. I don't understand gun culture either.
I dated a guy once--WAIT. YOU KNEW HIM. C. He was pro-gun ownership.
And he was "uncomfortable" w/ having gays in the military, until I chewed him out bigtime.
I mean, seriously, people WTF.
D: The gun thing is just odd... I mean, it wouldn't be so much of an issue, but there's this disturbing aggressiveness in their gun love..
And that was a while back..
me: Yeah, a certain amt of jingoism. I can understand if they served active duty or something--then maybe you really understand and appreciate freedom, and maybe gun ownership epitomizes this freedom in some special way.
D: Sure... And everyone watches Fox... and they can't really recognize it for what it is... Many otherwise intelligent successful people their quite literally believe Obama is trying to destroy the country..
It does..
It does symbolize that sort of frontier attitude and a type of masculinity that's still really valued in the south..
me: Ok, to be honest, I confess that I haven't watched FOX news in ages. Didn't Tom Browkaw used to work for FOX? I must listen to it just to see what it's about. I always joke about it, but can't imagine it can be that bad. . .
D: That said, I have noticed a lot more GLBT people out and about in my hometown.. Which I never saw 20 years ago when I was there..
me: But Tom Browkaw didn't used to be a rabblerowser.
D: The Fox thing is strange... Glen Beck, Sarah Palin.. They're transformed conservative politics into something unrecognizable. I know nothing about Brokaw.
me: Ok, I should watch it someday for kicks.
D: Yeah, watch Glen Beck.. He puts on this little glasses and gives revisionist history lessons... and then cries.. It's very odd
me: I have to admit, I completely tune out that section of the news, so I barely have any idea who Glen Beck is, except that people keep mentioning him on FB.
me: I barely know what Sarah P is up to, but I should pay more attention, b/c if she ever heads our country, I might have to--ah never mind. I shouldn't say these things on a forum like this.
D: Well, it's good that you don't subject yourself to it, but it's still interesting how much of an impact he's having... He really puts people on edge. My dad used to have a rational view of politics, but now he thinks the US is going to be destroyed in a very literal way..
Yeah, avoid the Palin. She's like our Eva Peron only right wing.. lol
me: Ha ha. Hey, I just got timed out of some job app I was doing, so I should get back to it. . .but we should catch up sometime! I'll try to watch some Fox in the meantime for cultural edification.
D: I recommend a drink or two before you start watching it!